Man, let me tell you, I usually don’t dive headfirst into the astrology stuff, but I had to this time. I met this guy—let’s just call him Finn—and he drove me absolutely crazy in the beginning. Everything I thought I knew about dating, everything I applied to past relationships, Finn flipped on its head. I came close to just throwing up my hands and walking away, honestly.
I started dating him pretty casually. We chatted for weeks, and when we finally went out, it was like something out of a movie. Deep talks, super emotional connection, the works. I left that night feeling totally secure. The next morning, I texted him a quick “Thanks for a great night,” and then… crickets. Complete radio silence. For four days. I checked my phone a hundred times. I thought I’d somehow missed a text or maybe he’d blocked me. It was a total shock.
I sat at my kitchen table, fuming. I called my friend Sarah, who’s all about the zodiac, and I spilled the whole story. I told her I didn’t get it. “Was he lying? Was he just being a jerk?” I demanded answers. Sarah laughed and asked me his birthday. When I told her early March, she just said, “Oh, honey. You’ve got a Pisces man. You’ve been playing this all wrong.”
That’s when I realized this wasn’t about him being a player; it was about the way he processes things. I decided to treat it like a serious field experiment. I dove into the forums and listened to every story and read every snippet I could get my hands on. My normal approach—being direct, super planned, and logical—was the exact opposite of what this man needed to feel secure and loved. I wrote down my findings and committed to changing my practice.
My first step was to send a super gentle, zero-pressure text. I used a phrase I saw online: “Hope your creative juices are flowing this week. No need to reply, just thinking of you.” It felt ridiculous, but I sent it anyway. Within an hour, he wrote back this huge, rambling apology about how he gets overwhelmed and needs to retreat, and how much he loved our date but he got scared by how intense it was. My logical brain wanted to scream, but I held back. I started to understand one of the big secrets: he needs space to process the intense emotion he picks up from the world.
The Loving Traits I Learned to Unlock
I implemented a whole new strategy for the next few months. It was hard work, but I began to see the amazing loving traits everyone talks about. Here’s what I did and what it unlocked:
- I Stopped Demanding Logic. When he talked about his feelings or dreams, I didn’t try to solve them or question the reality. I listened with pure empathy. This unlocked his deep, almost spiritual Devotion. He looked at me like I was the only person who ever truly understood him. It’s intoxicating.
- I Focused on The Little Things. This man responds to symbolism. I started making him small gifts—like drawing him a silly comic about his day or playing him a specific song. I noticed how much this activated his Creative Soul. He reciprocated with incredible thoughtfulness, planning dates that felt like art projects, not just dinner.
- I Had to Show, Not Just Tell, My Love. They get confused by loud, aggressive declarations. I found that acts of service and quiet, physical affection worked way better. I rubbed his back without asking or made sure his favorite tea was ready when he arrived. This brought out his strongest trait: Unwavering Kindness and Empathy. He became the most considerate partner I’ve ever had, always sensing what I needed before I even knew it.
Honestly, the whole practice changed me too. I stopped being such a harsh critic of my own feelings and started letting things flow. When Finn is in love, he’s a total hot mess of emotion, sure, but he’s also the most loving, dedicated man I could have ever imagined. It took months of deliberately doing things his way, but I unlocked a love that’s unlike anything else. I learned that with a Pisces man, you can’t force the pace; you have to trust the current, and eventually, he will show you just how deep his waters run. That initial confusion? It was the signpost for a truly unique connection. I’m glad I stuck with my little experiment. It paid off big time.
