Alright folks, listen up. I gotta tell you about this whole journey I went on, digging deep into romantic novels. You might think, “Eh, just grab a book, right?” Nah, it was a whole thing. A project, almost. See, a while back, I was just feeling… drained. Like the colors had gone out of everything. Work was a grind, personal stuff was just “meh,” and I needed an escape, something to make me feel anything besides tired. That’s when I stumbled into the world of romance novels. It wasn’t planned, it just kind of happened.
I started small, just picking up whatever looked shiny at the bookstore or was cheap on my e-reader. You know, the covers with the shirtless guys and the dramatic fonts. No judgment, I was just trying to get my feet wet. Some were alright, a quick distraction. Others? Absolute duds, I tell ya. I’d read like two chapters and just toss ’em aside, thinking, “What was even the point of that?”
The Dive into the Deep End
But then, I got a little smarter. I started asking around. Friends, online groups, even just lurking on forums where people talked about books. I began to see patterns, like what people called “tropes” – stuff like “enemies to lovers” or “fake dating.” That was a game changer. Instead of just randomly grabbing, I could look for stories with stuff I already knew I liked. It was like suddenly I had a map instead of just wandering around in the dark. I wanted that slow burn, that witty banter, the kind of story where you can practically feel the tension building between the characters.
My reading volume shot up, big time. I was inhaling books. Weekends became dedicated reading marathons. I’d grab a coffee, plop down on the couch, and just vanish for hours. My wife would joke that I was having an affair with my e-reader, and honestly, sometimes it felt like it! I was exploring all sorts of subgenres too. I dipped into:

- Historical romances: Dukes and duchesses, ball gowns, secret rendezvous. The whole shebang. Transported me right out of my boring living room.
- Contemporary romances: More grounded, you know? People with normal jobs, normal problems, just trying to find love in the modern world. Relatable stuff.
- Paranormal romances: Vampires falling for humans, werewolves finding their mates. Wild stuff, but sometimes you just need to read about a brooding immortal, right?
I found myself marking pages, highlighting sentences, sometimes even re-reading entire chapters just because a conversation was so good or a moment hit me just right. It wasn’t just about finishing a story anymore; it was about savoring it.
Finding the Gems and Building My List
After months of this, a real pile of books, both digital and physical, I started to notice some standing out. Not just “good” books, but ones that really stuck with me. The ones I’d think about days after finishing, the ones that made me feel something deep in my gut. These weren’t just distractions anymore; they were experiences. I wasn’t deliberately making a “top list” at first, it just formed in my head as I read more and more. I found myself telling friends, “Oh, if you liked that one, you HAVE to read this other one!” It became my own little curated collection.
What made them “top” for me? It wasn’t just the plot. It was the characters. Did I actually care about them? Did their struggles feel real? Did I believe their love story? It had to have that emotional punch, that feeling that these two characters were just meant to be, even if they had to fight tooth and nail to get there. The writing also mattered. I learned I really appreciated authors who could make me laugh, make me swoon, and sometimes even make me tear up a little.
One book would lead to another. I’d finish a phenomenal one, then immediately look up everything else that author had written. Then I’d check who they recommended. It was like a treasure hunt, each discovery leading to the next. I didn’t care about what was trending or what was getting big awards; I cared about what made me feel good, what genuinely moved me. And believe me, there are plenty of authors out there who just get it right. They really know how to craft a story that pulls you in and doesn’t let go until the very last page.
So yeah, this whole “practice” of reading romance novels, it started as just a way to escape. But it turned into a real passion. It gave me a consistent source of comfort, excitement, and a little bit of magic when I needed it most. It also made me realize how much joy I get from diving deep into a world, connecting with characters, and feeling all the feels. I’ve got my mental list now, always growing, always shifting as I find new favorites. It’s a good feeling, having that kind of consistent enjoyment in life, you know?
