Man, I have to tell you about the Queen of Pentacles. Everyone who starts pulling cards always wants that straight-up ‘Yes’ or ‘No,’ right? Like, ‘Is he going to call me?’ ‘Yes, or No?’ It drives me nuts now, especially when this Queen shows up.
Back when I was starting out, probably eight or nine years ago, I treated her like she was the Ace of Cups or something—all soft feelings and ‘let’s build a cozy little nest.’ I thought she was saying, ‘Yes, you can be happy, you can be safe, you can have a family.’ I got it so completely wrong.
The Great Reality Check: Ignoring the Pentacles
There was this guy, Alex. Charming, funny, total sweetheart, but he was always bouncing off the walls with these ‘next big thing’ projects. One month it was custom t-shirts, the next it was selling imported teas, and the one after that he was convinced he was going to be a YouTube star. Zero consistency. Zero steady income.
I was so into him, though. My head was saying, ‘This is a mess,’ but my heart was doing that whole movie score thing. We were talking about moving in together, and I pulled a simple three-card spread for the future of the relationship. Right there, in the outcome position, staring back at me, was the Queen of Pentacles.
My instant thought? YES! She was the domestic goddess, the steady hand, the one who makes a house a home. I skipped the whole damn deck that day, just shouting ‘Yes!’ in my head. I ignored the two cards before her—the 7 of Swords and the 5 of Wands—I just blocked them out. I was so focused on the outcome card being the ‘Yes’ I was looking for.
We signed the lease a month later. Big mistake. Huge.
When ‘Nurturing’ Means Paying All the Bills
Everything went sideways faster than you can say ‘eviction notice.’ He lost interest in the YouTube thing because the lighting was ‘wrong,’ and then he decided he needed an expensive camera that wiped out his half of the security deposit. He was supposed to be handling the utilities setup—he forgot, and we went three days without hot water in November.
I ended up doing everything. Paying for everything, setting up everything, fixing everything. My money, which I had carefully squirreled away for a rainy day, was suddenly the emergency fund for his impulsive decisions. I worked my butt off at my job, coming home tired, only to find him still ‘brainstorming’ on the sofa, surrounded by empty takeout containers.
The Queen of Pentacles was absolutely present in that house. But she wasn’t talking about him. She was talking about me. The reading wasn’t a ‘Yes, this relationship will be great.’ It was a ‘Yes, you will become the Queen of Pentacles, bearing the full weight of the material world and the entire household on your shoulders.’ I was the one who was grounded, nurturing, and providing the stability he kept leaching off of.
It didn’t last. Surprise, surprise. I gave him a strict deadline to find a steady job, not a ‘get rich quick’ scheme, and pay his part of the back rent he owed me. He just packed up a duffel bag and ghosted on the lease. Didn’t even leave a note, just a huge stack of bills and a sad-looking houseplant.
Her Real Answer: It’s Always Conditional
That whole mess changed how I read the Pentacles suite forever. I learned that for the Queen, there is no fuzzy ‘Yes’ based on feelings. Her answer is always practical, always grounded, and always conditional. Now, when I pull her in a ‘Yes/No’ context, I follow a completely different rulebook. I don’t look at her face; I look at her chair and the landscape around her.
Here’s my current take on her ‘Yes’ or ‘No’ when you are asking about a relationship’s future:
- Is it a ‘Yes’? ONLY if the question is about long-term building and stability, and ONLY if the partner you are asking about is already displaying the Queen’s traits—reliable, financially stable, practical, and invested in making a real home. She gives a solid ‘Yes’ to partnerships that prioritize security over spectacle.
- Is it a ‘No’? Absolutely, if the question is about a fleeting romance, a drama-filled situation, or a partner who is erratic, unreliable, or a financial drain. She gives a hard ‘No’ to anything that threatens your material safety or requires you to constantly sacrifice your own hard-earned comfort. She will not approve of a relationship built on sand.
It’s about proof. She’s staring you down and asking: Show me the paperwork. Show me the bank account. Show me the consistency. If you’re asking about someone who’s constantly borrowing money or can’t hold a job for six months, the Queen of Pentacles is slamming the door shut. She’s not a romantic. She’s a CEO of the home, and she’s not going to sign a contract with a bankrupt company. That early mistake with Alex taught me that the hard way—a stack of unpaid bills and a whole lot of cleaning up after someone who was never going to contribute. Her ‘Yes’ is peace of mind. Her ‘No’ is the chaos I had to dig myself out of.
