It’s funny, right? You hear it everywhere—Pisces and Cancer, the ultimate water sign power couple. Everyone just parrots the same line: “A total soulmate connection, you guys are living the dream.” I heard that exact phrase so many times when I was seeing a Cancer guy, but the reality? It was a glorious, beautiful, messy train wreck. It definitely didn’t feel like the perfect match they kept telling us about. I got tired of the contradiction.
I decided I wasn’t going to trust any of those glossy astro-websites anymore. I was going to build the data myself and see what was really going on, day by day. I figured if anyone could get to the bottom of this “perfect match” myth, it would be me, tracking the actual transits instead of waiting for some guru to release a vague annual forecast.
My Soulmate Status Tracking Setup
The whole project started a few months after things totally imploded with that Cancer guy. I was sitting at home, just doom-scrolling and feeling generally lousy, when I pulled out his old birth chart—the one he made fun of me for keeping—and placed it right next to mine. I swore that day I’d find out if the stars just straight-up lied to us or if we were just two idiots who ruined a good thing.
My first step was to define the metric. I needed something simple, something I could check every single day without spending four hours doing complicated math. I scrapped the general sun-sign stuff. That’s for beginners. I focused only on the fastest, most relevant movers:
- The Moon (for daily emotions and moods).
- Venus (for love, harmony, and attraction).
- Mars (for action, conflict, and energy).
I isolated the key synastry aspects between our charts—specifically, how the current daily transit of the Moon, Venus, and Mars hit the natal placements in our charts. I didn’t care about trines or sextiles; those are fine. I was looking for the squares and the oppositions because those are the days things tend to explode.
I assigned a simple point system:
- Harmonious Aspects (Trine, Sextile, Conjunction in beneficial signs): +1 Point
- Difficult Aspects (Square, Opposition, Conjunction in challenging signs): -2 Points (I doubled the penalty because the chaos is always more memorable).
- No Major Aspect: 0 Points
I called the final tally the Daily Soulmate Status Score.
The Daily Grind and the Real Data Dump
For the next ninety days, I forced myself to log this data. Every morning, before I even made coffee, I pulled up the current planetary positions. I calculated the aspect table, I tallied the score, and I scribbled it down in a cheap composition notebook I had lying around. The first week was slow. The second week was tedious. By the end of the first month, I almost gave up. It felt pointless, like I was just inventing reasons to remember that relationship.
But the discipline stuck. Why? It wasn’t about the scores; it was about the routine. At the time, my job had just turned into a total mess—they had completely reorganized the whole department, and I was basically wandering around feeling like I had no control over anything. Tracking these stupid stars became the one thing I could rely on. It was a bizarre, personal protest against the chaos around me. I could control this notebook, even if I couldn’t control my office or my past love life.
The patterns that emerged were shocking. The score averaged out to about +0.5 over three months. This means, statistically, our relationship was only slightly more positive than neutral, not “perfect.”
I documented only two days where the score hit a perfect +7. Guess what? I checked my memories against those dates. On one of those days, we were actually on our worst fight ever—the one where we finally broke a plate and shouted things we couldn’t take back. It completely blew up the whole theory.
The Verdict: The Practice Taught Me the Real Lesson
After ninety days of tracking, logging, and calculating, I had my answer. Is the Pisces and Cancer pairing today really the perfect match? The honest, data-backed conclusion is a big fat NO. It’s a match with potential, sure, but the day-to-day reality is the same volatile, unpredictable crap as any other combination. The stars might align for a great foundation, but they don’t do the dishes or apologize after a stupid argument.
Here is what I actually learned from this project, and it has absolutely nothing to do with astrology:
- Routine Saves Lives: The act of keeping a regular log, even for something silly, gave me back a sense of stability when everything else was floating away. I was forcing organization onto my life.
- The Data Always Lies (A Little): If I had only looked at the “perfect days” (+7), I’d confirm the myth. But the low days (-8) and the mediocre days (0) were the majority. The relationship wasn’t perfect; it was just highly variable, which is a big difference.
- Control Is an Illusion: I started this practice to control the narrative. I wanted to prove the failure was written in the stars, but the project ultimately proved that people still choose their reactions, regardless of a moon-square-Mars aspect. The responsibility was ours, not the cosmos’.
I still keep the notebook, sometimes pulling it out when I hear another person tell me about their “soulmate.” I just look at my crappy handwriting and the low scores, and I smile. I did the work. The perfect match might not exist in the stars, but the knowledge that I figured this out for myself? That felt like a pretty good win.
