The Absolute Chaos of Trying to Figure Him Out
You saw the title, right? “What is he thinking easily?” Man, if you knew the stuff I went through to actually get to the “easily” part, you’d laugh, cry, and probably buy me a drink. I was a wreck. A total, obsessive wreck, constantly trying to figure out what some guy—let’s just call him “The Comet” because he zoomed in and out of my life—was actually plotting inside his head. It drove me nuts. Absolutely nuts.
I started with all the professional help. You know the drill. Scrolling through those cheesy psychic apps late at night. Shelling out fifty bucks for a 15-minute chat with someone named “Master Seraphina” who gave me five minutes of filler, eight minutes of “I see a big shift coming,” and two minutes pushing the $500 package. Total garbage. I tried the complex 10-card Celtic Cross spread, laid out on my dining room table, feeling all witchy and wise, only to end up staring at the cards and feeling more confused than when I started. The book said the Seven of Swords in the “Hopes and Fears” position meant I was secretly worried about being a liar. What?! I just wanted to know if the dude was going to text me back!
I wasted cash, I wasted weekends, and honestly, I wasted a lot of perfectly good wine moping over the ambiguity of it all. This whole journey to finding the “easy” way started not because I wanted to be a spiritual guru, but because I was broke, exhausted, and desperately needed a simple signal to stop this emotional roller coaster.
The Mess That Forced My Hand (A Log Entry)
Let me tell you about the lowest point, the moment I knew I had to go DIY or go crazy. This happened maybe a year and a half ago. “The Comet” had just pulled one of his classic fade-outs. Completely silent for four days after a great weekend. I felt humiliated, thinking I’d read everything wrong. I remembered that my bank account was hurting from all the “expert advice” I’d bought, yet I still couldn’t stop thinking about him.
I was sitting on my floor, staring at my bills, and this wave of pure frustration just hit me. I picked up my deck—a cheap, slightly sticky Rider-Waite I’d bought years ago—and a crusty old notebook I used for grocery lists. I just thought: I need to log this failure, and I need a system that costs zero, and makes immediate sense.
It was like a switch flipped. The moment I stopped trying to be a fancy reader and just started being an angry, confused human who needed a simple log, everything clicked. I threw out the rulebook and decided I would only ever use a 3-card pull for this specific question.
The Easy, No-BS 3-Card Log Process
This is the structure I hammered out, and it’s the only way I track these things now. It’s direct, it’s brutal, and it forces you to record the result immediately before your brain starts playing tricks on you.
My ritual is non-existent. I grab the cards, I shuffle them while saying, “What is actually going on inside his head right now that he won’t tell me?” Then I deal three cards, left to right, and write down these meanings in my notebook. No fluff, just the log.
- Card 1: The Face He Shows (The Surface Thought)
This is what he thinks he is projecting. The excuse. The easy answer.
- Card 2: The Heart He Hides (The True Feeling)
This is the core of it. What he’s really grappling with, even if he doesn’t admit it. This card is almost always a shocker.
- Card 3: The Move He Will Make (The Next Action)
Forget what he says. What is the universe saying he is about to do?
I force myself to be a log-keeper, not a psychic. I write down the card, the context of the question (i.e., “Asked about the four-day silence”), and what I think it means. Then, I wait. That’s the key. You wait for the action in Card 3 to play out, and then you update the log with the reality.
Logging What His Heart Truly Said (The Realization)
Let me share a raw log entry. I asked why “The Comet” hadn’t initiated plans for the next weekend.
Log Entry: Aug 18th – Why No Weekend Plan?
- Card 1: The Face He Shows: Knight of Swords.
My quick read: Ugh, he’s probably too busy, charging ahead with his life/work. Not thinking about me. - Card 2: The Heart He Hides: Four of Pentacles Reversed.
My quick read: Wait, this is totally different. This is letting go, throwing away stability. He’s stressed, feeling insecure about money or losing control. - Card 3: The Move He Will Make: The Hermit.
My quick read: He is going to retreat. Go quiet. Isolate himself.
My initial reaction was frustration—he’s just going to disappear! But the log told a different story later that week. Card 2, the Four of Pentacles Reversed, was the truth. He wasn’t ignoring me; he was in a financial panic over a sudden car repair and was embarrassed. The Hermit (Card 3) played out perfectly: he went radio silent for two days. I logged the actual outcome: “He texted saying he was hiding because he was broke and dealing with a huge bill.”
The biggest takeaway from keeping this brutal, no-frills log? What you think he’s thinking (Knight of Swords) is rarely the true story (Four of Pentacles Reversed). This simple, free, 3-card process, and the discipline of logging the results over time, is the only easy way I’ve found to cut through the noise and see what’s actually going on in his heart. No Master Seraphina needed. Just a cheap deck and an honest notebook.
