I’ve always been the kind of guy who tracks things. Budget, gym reps, server uptime—you name it, I log it. But then I ran smack into a Pisces woman. Let me tell you, all my previous tracking systems failed immediately. Absolute chaos.
This woman, bless her heart, was a walking contradiction. One minute we’re talking about deep personal stuff until 3 AM, the next day I get one-word answers. Total emotional quicksand. Every dating guide I read online was flowery garbage, talking about ‘spiritual connection’ and ‘deep oceanic feelings.’ Useful stuff, right? Not really. I wasn’t looking for poetry; I needed data. I needed a clear, undeniable yes or no, because frankly, I was tired of feeling like I was dating a mood ring.
I scrapped the horoscope garbage and decided to apply my logging discipline to her behavior. This wasn’t about checking her natal chart; it was about observing her actions when I applied pressure or withdrew attention. My goal was simple: build a checklist of 6 specific behaviors that, if present, meant she actually liked me back, not just tolerated my presence because she’s too polite to say goodbye. This wasn’t romance; this was field research, and I was determined to crack the code.
Setting Up the Data Collection: The Six Pillars
I started with a simple hypothesis: a genuinely interested Pisces will stop retreating when you approach, and instead, initiate the shared dream world they constantly live in. I spent a month actively measuring her responses across six specific categories. I wasn’t subtle; I pushed boundaries slightly just to see how she reacted when her comfort zone was challenged, because genuine interest overcomes their natural instinct to retreat.
- The Time Investment (Sign 1): I tracked how quickly she would reschedule if she canceled. Pisces are flaky, sure, they get overwhelmed easily. But if she likes you, she instantly blocks out new time, often inconvenience herself, because you matter more than her scheduled daydreaming session. If she says “maybe next week, I’ll text you,” she doesn’t like you. I logged two cancellations in week one; both times she called back ten minutes later proposing an alternate day and time and apologizing profusely. Point scored.
- The Vulnerability Gate (Sign 2): Pisces live behind a veil of fantasy. They often project what they think you want to see. If she likes you, she shuts down the daydream filter and lets you see the actual mess behind the curtain—her insecurities, her weird habits, the dark stuff. I purposely shared a slightly embarrassing weakness about my past work failures. Her reaction wasn’t pity, it was immediate sharing of her own similar, deeper secret regarding a failed business venture. She exposed the soft underbelly. Massive indicator.
- The Conflict Avoidance Test (Sign 3): These women notoriously hate conflict. They’ll disappear rather than argue. But if she’s invested, she’ll actively push through the discomfort to resolve even a minor issue we had. I waited for her to retreat when we disagreed about something trivial, like politics. Instead of ghosting me for three days, she circled back an hour later with a thoughtful text explaining her viewpoint calmly and asking if we could agree to disagree without drama. She chose difficult conversation over easy escape. I logged that as a sacrifice.
- The Memory Recall Depth (Sign 4): Did she remember minor details I casually mentioned weeks ago? This isn’t just listening; it’s internalizing your life data. I threw out an inside joke referencing something I said on our second date about my grandmother’s awful cooking. She didn’t just smile; she added a new layer to the joke, proving she’d been actively thinking about that specific memory later on. That’s emotional processing, not just politeness.
- The Physical Closeness Threshold (Sign 5): I observed if she initiated any light, accidental touch, or if she instinctively pulled back when I crossed the boundary. I started holding the door for just a second too long, allowing our arms to brush while walking. The true sign was when she started leaning into my personal space while talking, even slightly, without noticing she was doing it. I logged three distinct non-verbal physical initiations over two dates, including her resting her head on my shoulder briefly during a movie without apology. That was the green light.
- The Future Planning Metric (Sign 6): This is the big one. If she likes you, she integrates you into her nebulous future plans. It’s not “let’s go next week,” it’s using “we” when discussing far-off events. I drove the conversation toward three months out, casually mentioning a trip to the mountains. She immediately started talking about what clothes she’d need to borrow from me for the cold weather then, making the plan concrete without being asked. That’s commitment, folks. They don’t involve people in their dreams unless they are serious.
The Verdict of the Logbook
After three solid weeks of tracking, my logbook showed a clear pattern. When I started, I had maybe one or two checked boxes randomly. But as I kept applying the tests—not manipulative, just observational—the checklist filled up fast. By the end of week four, I was consistently hitting five or six out of six every time we interacted. There was no more guessing, no more agonizing over cryptic text messages. The data screamed “yes.”
I drove over to her place the following Friday and put the question to her directly. She looked surprised for about two seconds, then she leaned in and confessed that she thought I was just being polite because I helped her fix her busted water heater last month and didn’t charge her. See? Even when they like you, they retreat into doubt and project their fears onto your actions. My data collection saved me months of agony.
The lesson here isn’t that you need to be a creepy data scientist to date a Pisces. The lesson is that you need to stop interpreting their ethereal vibes and start logging their concrete actions. They might live in the clouds, but their true feelings manifest in practical ways: prioritizing time over their comfort, choosing vulnerability over façade, and pushing past their instinct to flee conflict. If you are stuck dating one of these beautiful, confusing mermaids, stop drowning in confusion. Define your six signs now. Start logging. You’ll figure out the answer much faster than waiting for them to finally make up their minds.
