So, I decided to try temperance as a way of reconciliation. It all started when I was in a really heated argument with my buddy. We were both so worked up, yelling and getting all defensive. I realized that this wasn’t getting us anywhere, and I remembered hearing about the idea of temperance in reconciling differences.
I took a deep breath and decided to start with myself. First, I stopped talking. I mean, just shut my mouth and listened. Instead of waiting for my turn to fire back, I really tried to hear what he was saying. It was hard, you know? My mind was racing with all the things I wanted to say, but I forced myself to focus on his words.
As I listened, I started to pick up on the real issues he was having. It wasn’t just about the surface argument we were having. There were some underlying feelings that he’d been holding back. I then began to respond, but not in a hot – headed way. I chose my words carefully, speaking slowly and calmly. I made sure to acknowledge his feelings, saying things like “I can see why you’d be upset about this.”
I also made an effort to be more empathetic. I put myself in his shoes and thought about how I’d feel if I was in his situation. This helped me to understand his perspective better. I even cracked a few jokes here and there to lighten the mood. It was amazing how a little bit of humor could defuse the tension.
During this process, I noticed a change in him too. He started to calm down, and his tone became less aggressive. We were able to have a proper conversation, and we began to work out a solution to our problem. We agreed on some compromises, and it felt like a huge weight had been lifted off our shoulders.
By the end of it, I realized that temperance in reconciliation is super effective. It’s like hitting the pause button on a fight and then approaching the situation with a clear head. It allows both parties to express themselves without fear of being attacked, and it paves the way for a more peaceful and satisfactory resolution. According to some relationship experts, using temperance in conflicts can increase the chances of successful reconciliation by up to 70%. And from my own experience, I can totally vouch for that!
