Man, when I first met him, I didn’t even know what a “Pisces man” was. I just knew there was this guy, right? He was kinda dreamy, always staring off into space, and had this really gentle vibe about him. Different from anyone I’d been with before, that’s for sure. I usually go for the loud, confident types, you know? But this one, he was just… soft. And for some reason, that really grabbed me. I found myself wanting to figure him out, to get close. It wasn’t a plan at first, just an instinct. But then, as I started spending more time with him, I realized he was a whole different creature. My usual moves? Totally flopped. So I had to really shift gears.
I remember trying to impress him with how busy I was, how I had my life totally together, you know, the whole independent woman thing. He just nodded, smiled, and then kinda drifted off topic, talking about a weird dream he had or some random song lyric. It was like he wasn’t even hearing the parts I thought were supposed to be impressive. That was my first big clue. This guy wasn’t impressed by standard go-getter stuff. He was living on a completely different wavelength.
So, I started observing him, really paying attention. Not just to what he said, but how he felt about things, how he reacted to stuff. It was almost like reading between the lines of his soul, if that makes sense. And what I picked up on were a few things that totally changed my approach. It wasn’t about “getting” him, it was about “connecting” with him, on his terms. This whole journey turned into a sort of personal experiment for me. Here’s what I figured out, step by step.
Start by Really, Truly Listening
- I shut my mouth and opened my ears. Seriously, this was number one. He’d talk about his feelings, his dreams, even anxieties, and my first instinct was to jump in with solutions or try to fix it. Big mistake. He didn’t want solutions; he wanted to be heard. He wanted to share his inner world. So I stopped interrupting. I just let him talk, nodding, making eye contact, and showing I was actually present. I noticed a huge difference when I did that. He’d lean in more, relax, and keep sharing. It was like I was finally giving him permission to be completely himself.
Show Your Soft Side, Be Vulnerable
- I stopped playing it cool all the time. I’m usually pretty guarded, you know? Don’t want to show too much, too soon. But with him, it felt different. He seemed to respond to genuine emotion, to a bit of raw honesty. So I started sharing my own insecurities, my own silly dreams, even some fears. Nothing heavy or dramatic, just little glimpses into my softer spots. When I showed him I wasn’t always tough, he seemed to soften too. It was like we were meeting in a shared space of gentleness. He appreciated that I trusted him with my feelings, I think.
Create a Peaceful Vibe Around Him
- I tried to make our time together super chill. Pisces guys, from what I gathered, don’t really do well with a lot of drama or noise or pressure. My apartment used to be a bit chaotic, always something going on. When he was coming over, I started making an effort to tidy up, put on some soft music, light a candle maybe. Just create this really calm, almost sanctuary-like space. And when we were out, I’d suggest places that were quieter, more intimate, less about flashing lights and loud music. He really responded to that. You could see him visibly relax, almost melting into the environment I was trying to create.
Dig His Creative and Dreamy Stuff
- I genuinely leaned into his interests. He was always doodling, or humming some tune, or talking about a movie he saw that had this deep, philosophical meaning. My old self would’ve been like, “Okay, cool,” and moved on. But I started actually asking him about his art, about his thoughts on those movies, about his crazy dreams. I’d ask him to show me his sketches, or tell me more about the stories he made up in his head. And even if I didn’t totally get it, I showed genuine curiosity and admiration. That little bit of encouragement, that attention to his inner world, really lit him up. It made him feel seen, I think, for the parts of him that most people might just gloss over.
Give Him Space and Don’t Push
- I learned to back off sometimes. This was a hard one for me. When I like someone, I want to be around them all the time. But I noticed he sometimes just needed to retreat, to be alone with his thoughts. If I pushed too hard for plans, or seemed too demanding, he’d just kinda… shrink. So I started giving him that room. If he seemed quiet, I wouldn’t badger him. If he needed a night in, I’d say, “No problem, catch you later!” It wasn’t about playing games; it was about respecting his need for solitude. And funny enough, when I gave him that space, he’d often come back to me, even more open and connected. He felt he wasn’t being suffocated, and that trust helped.
So, yeah, these weren’t like magic spells or anything. They were just things I tried, things I learned from paying attention to him, from letting go of my own usual playbook. It was a lot of trial and error, a lot of feeling things out. And honestly, it wasn’t about “making him fall in love” in some manipulative way. It was more about learning how to connect with someone who sees the world differently, someone who feels things deeply, and then meeting him there. It ended up being a really beautiful thing, a slower, gentler kind of connection than I’d ever experienced. And I gotta say, it was totally worth the effort.
