The Flaw Hunt: Tracking Down the March 11th Hot Mess
I started this whole thing because I just kept noticing a pattern. It wasn’t one or two people; it was like, ten different situations involving folks who shared that specific March 11th birthday. I wasn’t doing this as some fancy academic study, nah. I was just tired of watching good people repeatedly screw up their lives in the same five or six stupid ways. So, I figured, let’s track the data myself and see what the common denominators actually were.
My “practice” started simple. I dusted off an old spreadsheet—I called it the “Fish Flaw Tracker”—and I began listing every person I knew, even casually, who was born on that exact day. I tracked down old social media posts, cross-referenced dates people got fired or broke up, and mostly, I just sat and listened to them complain about their lives over beers or bad coffee.
I collected data points for about six months. I didn’t ask them about astrology; I just watched how they reacted when real-life stuff hit them. I pushed them gently on their plans, noted down their commitments, and then recorded the inevitable outcome. What emerged from the actual practice was a crystal-clear list of what always goes wrong with them. And trust me, it’s always the same garbage.
The Ugly Findings: The Common Mistakes I Documented
The biggest, most destructive behaviors I logged consistently boiled down to a few major, recurring themes. These are the classic mistakes I kept seeing March 11th folks making and repeating:
- The Escape Artist: They run from conflict like it’s a house on fire. If a conversation gets tense, they just shut down. I documented three different guys who simply ghosted their entire lives—new city, new phone number—just because they didn’t want to explain why they missed a bill payment. Avoiding issues until the issue becomes a crisis is their superpower.
- The Professional Victim: They believe the universe is out to get them. Every bad thing that happens is always someone else’s fault. I cataloged arguments where they blamed the traffic for being late to a job they then lost because they were always late. They refuse to hold themselves accountable because, emotionally, it’s just too heavy.
- The Indecision Loop: Forget making a big life choice, they can’t even pick a restaurant. I spent nearly two hours one Tuesday watching one of them try to decide between two kinds of shampoo. They just worry everything to death. They wring their hands, they procrastinate, and by the time they finally commit to something, the opportunity has already vanished.
- The Dependency Trap: They must be connected to a strong personality, almost like a life raft. I observed them attaching themselves to partners who treated them like garbage, simply because the thought of being alone terrified them. If they can’t find a solid anchor, they just drift into a destructive emotional fog.
Why I Sank the Hooks Deep Into This Research
You might be asking why I bothered to track all this B.S. I wasn’t just doing it for fun, believe me. I got burned hard. This practice became necessary after I found myself in a truly impossible situation because of one of these March 11th personalities.
Last year, I was working on a massive, high-stakes project with a colleague who I thought was solid. We shook hands on a fifty-fifty split on the biggest investment of my career. Everything was lined up. The final signatures were due on a Monday morning. I called him Sunday night just to confirm everything was a go. He said he was ready.
Then, Monday morning, the bank called me. My partner never showed up. I frantically texted him. No response. I drove to his place. Empty. I spent three days calling every single person we both knew. He had just vanished without a trace. The deal collapsed instantly. I lost six figures and nearly lost my entire business because I trusted someone who simply couldn’t handle the pressure of finality.
When he finally resurfaced three weeks later, looking utterly defeated, what was his reason? Not a death, not an accident. He said he just felt too much anxiety about the commitment and needed to clear his head. He admitted he was scared he might fail, so he just ran. He apologized while crying and then asked me for money to cover his missed rent, because, of course, I was the one who was supposed to fix things.
That day, I slammed shut his pathetic victim story and opened my “Fish Flaw Tracker.” I knew then I had to understand what was broken inside these specific people, not to judge them, but to protect myself from them. I vowed to never let that kind of emotional cowardice destroy my life again. My whole practice was about drawing an emotional boundary and sticking to it, using cold, hard, tracked data. It works a lot better than trusting their watery promises.
