Getting Real: My Preparation Process for a Life Reading
You see all these posts online, right? They talk about getting a life reading, finding your purpose, all that spiritual-sounding stuff. I got into it a few years back, and let me tell you, most times I walked away feeling like I just paid $200 for someone to tell me I like breathing air. I was so mad. The readers weren’t bad people, but the results? A total waste of time and money. I realized the problem wasn’t the reader; it was me. I showed up completely unprepared, expecting the reader to do all the heavy lifting. That’s why I cracked down and developed this whole process. You gotta treat this like prepping for a massive job interview, not just a casual chat. You want the best results? You gotta put in the work first.
I Started By Brutally Cutting the Fluff
The very first thing I did was grab a notebook and a pen. Not the computer, not the phone notes—actual paper. I forced myself to sit there and just write down everything that was stressing me out, every decision I was stuck on, every nagging doubt. I didn’t filter anything at first. I just poured it all out onto the page. This part took an hour, maybe more. It was a complete mess of anxiety and ‘what-ifs.’
My initial list looked like this, just pure garbage questions:
- Will I be happy?
- Should I quit my job eventually?
- Is my partner the right one?
- What’s my biggest purpose?
See? Too vague. The reader can’t do anything with that except give you vague, fluffy answers. So, once I had the giant list, I went through and highlighted the verbs—the action words. Then, I forced myself to rewrite every single question to be as specific as possible. I needed to move from wanting a reading to getting actual, actionable advice. I called this the ‘No Fluff Rule.’
That messy list transformed into a focused, powerful list of questions:
- What is the immediate next step I need to take to increase my income in the next six months?
- I am considering two job offers: Offer A in the city or Offer B remote. What energy pattern is blocking me from making a clear decision on one of them?
- My partner and I constantly argue about money. What is the core lesson I need to learn or communicate to resolve this specific conflict?
I ended up with only about six or seven questions, but they were concrete things I could actually act on. I typed them up and printed them out so I wouldn’t stumble during the session.
I Cleared the House, Cleared My Head
You can’t go to something this important when you’re jittery, stressed, or hungover. It’s like trying to tune a radio station through a thunderstorm. The day before the reading, I shut down all my social media apps. I literally logged out so I couldn’t mindlessly scroll. That night, I made sure to get a full eight hours of sleep—no exceptions. I wasn’t going to show up tired and irritable.
The morning of the reading, I made my space quiet. I cleaned up my desk, wiped down the kitchen counters. A messy environment equals a messy head, plain and simple. I drank almost nothing but water all day—no coffee, no energy drinks. I needed my body to be calm and grounded, not buzzing and anxious. About an hour before the session, I simply sat still for fifteen minutes and just focused on my breathing. I wasn’t trying to ‘meditate’ or be super spiritual. I was just trying to bring my heart rate down and clear the mental chatter. I needed to be an open receiver, not a nervous talker.
My First Disastrous Reading is Why I Started Doing This
Why did I go to all this extreme prep? Because my first reading was a joke, a total disaster.
It was about three years ago, right after I got let go from a horrible job. I was completely lost and desperate. My savings were disappearing faster than I could track, and I felt like a total failure. I scrambled and booked the first expensive reader I could find, thinking ‘more money equals better results.’ I showed up late, still buzzing from three cups of coffee, trying to remember what I was even supposed to ask.
The reader was nice, but all they could tell me was vague stuff about a “new door opening” and that “I needed to trust my heart.” No kidding! I left there $350 poorer with absolutely zero new information. I even tried to bring up a specific job prospect, but I hadn’t written it down, so I stammered and couldn’t explain the situation clearly, and the reader just shrugged. I felt cheated, but really, I cheated myself by not showing up ready. I realized if I was going to invest time and money, I needed to take control of the experience.
That miserable, expensive mistake was my wake-up call. I went home, pulled out the notebook, and started designing this whole process because I promised myself I would never waste time or money again. You want high-quality answers? You have to show up with high-quality questions and a calm, clear mind. Try it this way; you’ll be surprised how much better the results are.
